Get to Know Our Therapists: Ashley Falco

Ashley is a recent and special addition to the Shift family. As a McGill graduate, one of the most meaningful times in Ashley’s life was her time spent earning her degree. She has a strong appreciation for the difficulties and challenges presented by university life because, well, she can relate!

We’re so happy to have her aboard and can’t wait for you to get to know her too!

What is your idea of perfect happiness?

I can’t say I’ve ever thought about what my idea of “perfect happiness” would look like, partly because I don’t believe that anything “perfect” exists – maybe I’m too much of a realist! I do believe that happiness exists though.

I believe that happiness isn’t something to be achieved, but a state of being or a mindset. For me happiness is expressing gratitude for what I have and reminding myself of this daily. Happiness is reflecting on how thankful I am for my wonderful family and friends, amazing partner and the fulfilling career that I’m so lucky to create for myself. Happiness is coming home after a long day of work and having connected, meaningful conversations with the people I love most. Happiness is cultivating the simple moments in life.  

Which living person(s) do you most admire?

This may sound cheesy, but I most admire my parents – their strength, tenacity, wisdom, selflessness, love and supportive nature. I only hope that one day I can extend the same to my family. I’d definitely have to say they are my biggest role models!   

What do you consider your greatest achievement?

One of my greatest achievements has been completing my Master’s degree in Psychology. Moment of honesty and vulnerability – school never came easily to me and at times it seemed I was the kid in class who had to work twice as hard as the rest. I can say I’m proud of myself for having a goal and sticking with it even if it wasn’t always easy or fun.

What is your most treasured possession?

I don’t really have any “treasured possessions”, but I treasure my relationships with close friends, family and my partner. I wouldn’t be where I am today without the love and support I receive from the amazing people in my life.    

What is your motto?

I don’t have a motto, but two quotes that really resonate with me are: “You are confined only by the walls you build yourself” and “If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done”. I find these mantras to be very empowering and motivating forces in my life, especially when I feel my self-doubt kicking in!

What is your favourite occupation?

I really enjoy my work as a Psychotherapist, but if I had to pick a close second it would definitely be interior design. I love the creative process involved in choosing elements that fit together as a whole to make an inviting space. I also have a strong positive association with home, so creating great spaces is that much more rewarding!   

If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

All of my friends and family know this one about me. If I could change one thing about myself it would definitely be my hair. I’ve always wished I had straight hair – the kind where you can get out of the shower and let it air dry without it looking like you stuck your finger in an electrical socket haha!

What is your greatest fear?

Bees! Without failure – any time a bee comes buzzing around I scream and run with panic. I’m starting to think my fear of bees either developed from the anticipatory anxiety of having never been stung or the trauma of watching my brother being attacked by bees when we were younger, likely the latter!

What is your greatest regret?

I can honestly say I don’t have any regrets. I adopt the thinking and belief of – never a mistake, always a lesson. I take my lessons and use them as opportunities for self-growth. My experiences, both good and bad, have contributed to who I am today.