Perfectionism is NOT the same thing as being goal-oriented or motivated to grow and better yourself. Perfectionism is this idea that one must be perfect in the way they act, look, communicate, and appear. It is an intangible standard, one that not a single person in the world can achieve!
Perfectionism is believing that you are what you accomplish, and that only when you accomplish your goals will you be worthy. The problem with this is that when you do accomplish those goals, you often only temporarily feel satisfied, not ever truly feeling worthy.
Perfectionism often leaves you feeling like you are not good enough. It is very hard to be happy with yourself when your perfectionism tricks you into believing you are a failure if you cannot achieve perfection.
So, how can you work through feelings of unworthiness and perfectionism?
When you are feeling self-critical, ask yourself “is this goal SMART”?
S- Specific (simple and significant)
M- Measurable (how would you know you have achieved this goal?)
R- Relevant (reasonable)
T- Time-bound (is it possible to achieve this goal in this amount of time?)
If your goal does not fit these criteria, your perfectionism might be setting unrealistic expectations.
Embracing your wonderful imperfections allows you to be your best, truest self. Be yourself, it is more fun anyways!
This blog was written by Mia Arcangeli during her time here at Shift Collab.
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